Skout Wing Gal – Keeping it real.

Spring has sprung, which gets me thinking about the outdoors, which in turn leads me to wonder why so many people are taking pictures of themselves in their bathroom mirror. Don’t you notice how the pictures turn out? Here’s the deal; the setting is uninspired, the lighting is terrible and you look just plain ridiculous. Think Mark Wahlberg’s character in Boogie Nights at his lowest point, talking to himself in the mirror.

Here’s an idea, why not ask a friend to snap of picture of you by your car? Or, if you have agoraphobia have them take a picture of you on the couch, or with your pet. Pictures are the first introduction new people have to you, so give them a reason to want to chat. A great trick is to pretend you are a tourist in your own town. Ask a passerby to snap a picture of you in front of a landmark, this is a great conversation starter because it gives someone an easy excuse to chat with you. If you live in San Francisco you could take a picture with the Golden Gate Bridge in the background, that way someone could use it as a reason to break the ice: “Hey, I’ve never walked across the bridge, want to go for a walk?”

Honestly unless you are in one of the 15 most beautiful hotel bathrooms and you are taking a picture of yourself in front of the incredible view there is no reason to take a picture in your bathroom, period. Just look at Bear’s picture, do you think anyone is intrigued by it?

Well ok maybe, but he’s a bear, taking a picture of himself, and that is a little out of the ordinary.

Skout Wing Gal – keeping it real.

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Skout Wing Gal – Keeping it real.

Have you ever seen a guy whistle at a girl walking by on the street? Have you maybe even tried it yourself? We’ve all at least witnessed it happen, whether we experienced it first hand or not. Now think back to the last time you saw it …did the woman stop in her tracks, turn around and say, “Wow, that was so clever. Here’s my number, please call me!” Sure that happens, never.

Look, in case you’re still confused let me spell it out for you; it doesn’t work in person and it doesn’t work online so why keep doing it? There’s a famous quote that goes: The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Let’s break out of the asylum together!

Picture this, you decide to start chatting with someone who might think you are cute, (despite the self portrait camera phone picture) and the first way you present yourself to her is with something along the lines of “helo, r yu tokin 2mi?“ not only do you appear one of the dimmer bulbs in the light fixture, but you give her no reason to respond back and most likely she will block you because clearly the conversation is going no where fast. Why not try an actual conversation starter, something that gives her an opening to chat and actually starts a dialogue.

I may be old school in my thinking but conversing should not be a dying art. In fact conversing via text or message can be challenging and fun, like an awesome puzzle where you come off sounding really smart and witty. Texting gives you the chance to edit what you are saying before you actually say it—you don’t have that opportunity in real life so take advantage of it. Try commenting on her photo, or mentioning something cool you have done, or even just saying hi and letting the conversation unfold. Here’s a test for you, go ahead and try your line and then try one of these:

Let’s chat and see where it goes.

You look like you might be interested in some stimulating conversation.

Hi, you’re cute!

See which one gets a positive response.

Whistling whether offline or on only highlights how awkward and unimaginative you are, and maybe speaks to a lack of social grace…and what girl wants that?

Skout Wing Gal – keeping it real.