Look, I know it can be hard to meet new people; especially once you are out of school. It doesn’t matter if you are trying to make friends or find a love connection, meeting people is hard. There are those that do it better then others, who are naturally gregarious in life but even those people can make mistakes. The three mistakes I see constantly can actually be the most detrimental to finding and making lasting connections.
Are you guilty of any of these?
First, and foremost being negative. Look, it’s a fact, like attracts like. So if you are negative and aggressive chances are the responses you are going to get will be negative and or aggressive. I always keep in mind the simple motto; treat people the way you would like to be treated. Know it, live by it.
Second, being uninteresting in a noncommittal way. I know I’m going to get some backlash for this one, what I mean is be yourself. Don't try to be someone you aren’t just because you think that will get more people to like you. It’s important to be true to who you are, and meet people who appreciate and gravitate towards your personality. Otherwise you are just living a lie, and trust me, that gets tiring or you end up with a split personality.
Third, living in a fantasy world. This is a big one, especially if you are looking for a romantic connection. You might have an idea of your perfect match, and trust me, I’m not suggesting you settle but I am telling you to be realistic and stay open. If you remain in a little box targeting only an ideal you will miss out on so many other interesting people. And you know what? You might not actually know exactly what you are looking for, so again don’t rule out possibilities just because you can’t check off every single box of your wish list.
It’s all about meeting people and having fun. So relax and be yourself!
Just Keeping it Real - Skout Wing Gal