Brianna asks: "My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months now, but it's a completely long distance thing. We rarely ever get to see each other (maybe once a month or so), and I'm really worried that we won't work out. What should I do?"
Brianna, Your question actually comes at the perfect time. I'm in something of a long distance "relationship" as well, so I'm able to speak from experience. And to be perfectly honest, I am just as worried (if not more so) about what's going to happen as you are!
And you know what? That's totally fine!
Relationships are meant to be a little scary at first -- it's all part of the fun, right? Not knowing what to expect. Not knowing what comes next. Not knowing what he's thinking, or what she's thinking, or what's right around the corner. The nerves and worries are all a part of the dating process, and long distance relationships are no exception.
So what should you do? Well, the first step is realizing that it is totally human to worry a little bit while in a long distance relationship. It's a sign that you care, and you should embrace it as a positive thing (especially if you want things to work out). Accept that your feelings are valid and have a little confidence in yourself! Nothing is wrong with you for wanting things to work out. So stop stressing, okay?
Secondly, I've found that keeping an open line of communication is the most important part of any relationship -- long distance or not. So if you really just need to get those worries off of your chest, let him know! Allowing those feelings just build up inside of you is going to make you explode. And in a long distance relationship, honesty is definitely the best policy. If you need reassurance from him, just ask him for it! This may come as a shock to you, but no, boys actually can't read our minds. Who knows? Maybe he's just as worried as you are! So open up to him. It helps build that trust that you both need to keep those worry-warts at bay.
And finally, never be afraid to reach out to the people who care about you (like friends or family), or to indulge in the things that make you happy. In a long distance relationship, you are given a rare opportunity to explore a large amount of "personal space". Take advantage of that. With all the time that you and your mate spend apart, you could be pursuing things that make you happy as an individual rather than as a couple. Occupy yourself with things that you enjoy. By pampering yourself and keeping your mind busy, you'll spend more time being satisfied and less time worrying.
To our readers here on TheFlirtBlog.com, do you have any advice for Brianna? And if you have any questions of your own or just need to get something off of your chest, be sure to let us know (anonymous or not)! Sometimes, it helps to get another person's opinion when it comes to matters of the heart.
So as always? Happy flirting, Skouts. XOXO Cheri XOXO