Shows like It’s Jess, and characters like SNL’s Shy Ronnie always originate from somewhere. And more than likely, that somewhere is actually someone. Everyone has that one amazing, but shy friend that could use a little help meeting new people. Even some of the most extroverted and confident people can be socially awkward given the right circumstances. Depending on the degree, people even get anxiety because of it. But for those that just need a little push in the right direction, here are some easy tips you can use to get out from that social rock you’re under, and into the world!
Go to places of interest. Surround yourself with things that you enjoy, and are familiar with. That way you’ll feel comfortable, and end up meeting people with the same interests as you making it easier to find something in common to talk about. If you like art for instance, visiting your favorite art exhibit would be a good idea. If you’re feeling extraadventurous, attending the grand opening of an exhibit would be even better!
Socialize. Finding places to meet people is easy, now comes the hard part – actually talking to the people you meet. However, it’s only as hard as you make it, and a little goes a long way. Considering the person isn’t in a rush, asking questions is a good way to keep a conversation flowing. Pay attention to the things around you and talk about something relevant that may start up a conversation. When all else fails, a simple “Hello,” usually does the trick just fine.
Assimilate & Communicate. You’re not off the hook just yet! Once a conversation has started, there is still the task of keeping it going. Pay attention to the other person’s facial expressions, responses, and body language during your conversation, so that you can gauge what interests them and what doesn’t. Don’t change who you are, but do be considerate of the other person’s beliefs. And if there’s something that could be misunderstood, whether it be something you said that came out the wrong way or a weird tick you have, let the other person know! The both of you will feel more comfortable afterwards.
Embarrassed/Awkward can be CUTE!
Smile. This is probably the easiest thing you can do, as well as something you should be doing lots of regardless. A smile is the best way to start a conversation without even having to open your mouth! It lets people know you aren’t closed off, are pleasant, and have a positive attitude. Even if the intention isn’t to meet someone, a smile can make someone else’s day without you even realizing it.
Last, but definitely not least – Skout! We aren’t a part of the fastest growing social scene for nothing! The fact is, some people need a little help breaking the ice and feel more comfortable doing so behind a screen. It gives you the ability to get to know someone before really getting to know someone. And if you’re too shy to wink at someone as they walk by you on the street, you can always send them a wink on Skout instead!
Meeting new people doesn’t have to be so daunting. It’s a “must” in a world where who you know is just as important (if not more) than what you know. They say that closed mouths don’t get fed, so make sure you don’t starve! Meeting new people, and more importantly – making new friends – makes life more fruitful, and full of happiness.
I agree with this bc I have trouble making friends in school bc Id fit in with the girls in my grade only freshman boys and I fit in with junior girls and sophomore girls and guys but it’s hard 2 make friends and I’d like being alone so lookin 2 make some friends dat r in my grade!!! I could use some help I always have guys as friends!!! Good post!!! The only friends I have r Sarah and BFF Alexa r junior girls and Bryant and Sean r freshman boys!!
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True… Just be yourself and learn to smile a lot makes a difference. But just be ready to recognize when to walk away.
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even skouting can be tough at times…. seeing all these beatiful women with “hook” photos… makes ya wonder if they’ve been told every intro out there… being an introvert myself, i find it very difficult to decide what is worthy of speaking about…
I can totally see where you’re coming from. Sometimes it’s hard to distinguish those who genuinely want to meet new people from those who just want some attention. All you can really do – as cliche as it sounds, it BE YOURSELF. Even if they have heard every intro out there, they haven’t heard it from you! If it’s sincere, nothing else should matter.
This advise here is totally wrong. To break the ice you need to know three things
1 judge of character, can you see what kind of person he or she is
2 would the consideration of any of your topics that you would like to talk about mean anything to he or she
3 disturbing their peace after a certain number of times you talked to them when is it too much and you need a brake after the third full length conversations meaning full on talking that leads in to other things
i’m with you on that, Ace. those are great guidelines… i’ve met 2 people from skout and they were both good meets… and good times…
Well I don’t know how to say this I’m really bad at conversations and I’m awkward and shy and super insecure is there anyway that’s affecting the factthat I can’t socialize very well ( insecure)
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I’m going to have to disagree with ace there.
The one thing people should neve ever do is judge a character from their appearance and attitude. You dont know their lives and you don’t know what’s happening to them. Get to know them. And what you describe up there seems like characteristics of a total b**** like how do you know she’s one if you only judge the book by it’s cover. I can say from a girls perspective, we genuinely enjoy conversing and meeting new ppl. I can say from an I guess “attractive” female perspective, it’s hard to meet sincere guys because they assume we’re just animals on prowl for sex or we have a boyfriend or they get intimidated by us and don’t take us seriously.
All in all. Just break the ice and say “hi”.
Good luck everyone.
You can try and consider the length of time a person has been here on skout. Because The longer it is the more you need to question why they’re still online and available… a)Is it because they’re choosy, b) they met people but didn’t work out, because of high expectation, c) the relationship or no relationship didn’t last long because one partner realized that the other person just wants to play or sex only and not serious for a long term goal, d) the guy/girl is nice at first but the real color comes out after. e) that they are different person when you meet them offline. And many more to consider. Just use you’re judgment, try to get to know them first online, but take extra precaution when meeting them in person.
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I agree with the_dreamer, all i say is do not judge a book by its cover.
Very well put. I enjoyed reading this. Now its time to start ice breaking
Growing up the idea was to fit in .never did n usually because fitting in meant compromising who I was. Found out as a grown up that most of the outsiders that I befriended or at least acknowledged are the ones ruling the world as for the wannabes that were hip n fit in are usually losers in modern day society since they never nurtured their true identities . So be yourself respect those that have the courage to stand for what they believe in n pity the wannabes
@Rockwme, Here here! Very well said.
So, my question is, what does the yellow star over someone’s pic mean?
@Kimberly, That means the person has Backstage photos. They are private photos that you need Points to unlock.
I think we should beable to just have our city as a choice. Look up people in just waterloo for example. Please
Just relax an be urself an don’t care what other people think,as long u don’t forget who you are..there are too many opportunities out there to worry about just one:)
@Blue-eyes, Wow, really well said
I agree with what everyone has to say but sometimes I feel that it is harder for a girl to break the ice as compared to a guy. It may seem that the girl is trying too hard to get the guy’s attention or may even seem as flirtatious. Well this is just my perspective so yea..
A woman wants a man to listen to her not misunderstand her …..
Just relax to girl to peopie think. ok
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