Sometimes I just wanna say, O.M. G. Did he really just say that? It should be a criminal offense when a guy lacks game. It’s sad but we can (try) to help! Viva la (Skout) revolution!
Pet peeves, we all got them so let’s dish it out (semi constructively). Let’s give fellow Skouts an insight to what’s annoying as BLEEEEEP so we ALL can avoid them. Deal?
Grrrrrreat. Let’s begin.
Ladies and gents, we all want the same thing. What’s that you ask? A BREATH (or even a gust) OF FRESH AIR!!! As cliché as it sounds, its BLEEEEEPING true! Unfortunately, I can’t exactly tell you what to say to charm your flirt. Wahhhh! I wish I could. However, I can advise you on what NOT to say. To avoid sounding like a mentally bankrupt douche/douchette, refrain yourself from blurting anything sexual within the first few hummm…seconds!! This happens a whole bunch. More than you know. It’s pretty much the general rule to NOT say something you wouldn’t humanly say to another person’s face. Well, at least not someone you just met?! Remember that you’re hiding behind a screen for goodness sakes so, please please please stop acting all ballsy. It’s definitely not a cute look.
Fellers, would you just mosey on up to a women and say, “Hi. Wanna see my shaaalong?” I hope not! That’s really creepy and in the real world we would call that sexual harassment! I’d run, hide, duck and cover. How haunting would that be?
Anywho, the moral of this story is to HAVE (a tad bit) RESPECT FOR YOURSELF (AND FELLOW USERS). It’ll get you much further than being a total creeper. Self respect is pretty sexy – it demonstrates that you have principles, integrity and a buncha other good stuff. But, that’s just me.
So, Skouts, what are some of the things that grinds your gears? Whether it’s on Skout or just in general, we’d like to hear from you!
Good day,
Sheena
Complete turn offs:
-Asking a question, ignoring my response and then asking where I live. Or any other way of just asking where I live without having talked to me past the initial hellos.
-pictures with money/ pictures of your car
-1-5 word responses ( really, you don’t have anything else to say? Then y the f am I talking to you??)
Hi Sheena,
Well said! I’m a guy who like to be a gentleman and be courteous to ladies (and everyone) in fact.
If there are any douch bag guys who read your blog and ignore them, on behalf of all decent men everywhere I say…”Shame on you douche bags, treat the lady with the respect she deserves.
Here endeth the sermon.
Take it easy
From James
its so true! i hate people like that its like really? you have no other trait to you then whats on your body than in your mind! its ridiculous what happened to being a gentleman or a woman! some people still liked to be treated as a person and not a damn object! its true most guys are like this, but when you meet them their as shy as a turtle! its like what happened to you, you were so upfront about everything and now your shy?! pleaaaaaaase! thats just pathetic! the key in flirting is being yourself. and not some creep that goes around flashing other people. its not attractive, keep it classy (:
@Danielle – I’m with you 100%! Short responses usually means 1) they have a very limited vocab or 2) they simply feel time would be better spent on someone else.
Hmmp! Well, you don’t need those guys anyways.
Lol I am very entertained thank you for contributing to the smile on my face. As far as the overal topic ehh yeah
I read these things cuz sometimes there funny just sometimes sorry that some guy try to show you his ding dong
@Joseph- I vow to always (try) keep my fellow Skouts entertained as well as educate them. Double whammy!!!
That pretty much sums up about 90% of guys. I like to think that I’m not one of those douche bags, and hope that I’ll never become one. I’d much rather stay friends with a girl than act like an idiot just because I’m horny. I agree with women. Guys need to control themselves and be patient. Sometimes being really good friends is better than having a one night stand and never seeing her again. Life is not the amount of breaths you take, it’s the moments that take your breath away.
@Connor – AMEN. Finally, a man that knows what’s up! Let’s just hope the other 90% of guys catch on or we’re all doomed! Hahaha.
A caveat..females need to stop being so high and mighty. A guy will try to be nice to you. Don’t give him the shoulder because of that. If the conversation isn’t what you want..maybe a topic of interest should be added instead of one word responses
Hi,I had some creep come on and say somethinng I can’t repete here a while ago.
My personal peeve is non sequiturs: “how was your day?” – “good”, “what are your plans this week?” -”nothing”
@Shovav – AHHHHH! One worded people. Those are the worst!! Keep skouting, you’ll find the perfect chat mate.
People would be suprised at how far you can get by being respectful. Awesome post.
another pet peeve: ppl who r incapable of independent thought like James, Joseph and Connor above. If you need to echo Sheena’s sentiments, why use so many words? That’s the purpose of the magical word ‘ditto’
Ahhhh …. Many of the above answers are so correct!
One word answers! If I mean that little to you where you can’t hold a conversation with me than tell me! I often feel like you are wasting my time. Orrrr if you are so unintelligent that all you know is one word than you would bore me anyhow.
Sexting, is a freaking huge waste of time. If you need that to get you turned on than please go rent a porn. You sound like an idiot telling me what turns you on!
And finally, my biggest pet peeve is…. Telling me your ugly before sending me your pic. Ladies or even guys that may do this. I am talking to you for a reason. I am not tryin to bring you home for a one nighter, I am actually trying to get to know you. If your self-esteem is so low you have to warn me about your looks than intellectually we will not get along. Or worse, if your fishing for complements than your lame and we still won’t get along.
1-word responses. Especially from people who say they’re here to chat.
Biggest thing for me tho is whiners. Ask someone how they’re doing & you’re flooded with complaints about how lonely they are & such. Wtf people. Do you think that makes you attractive?
It’s good for single person … I wash More and more people join skout … I love to chat here
I agree with everyone low self esteem seems to be a problem in my town guys and girls I just joined this thing and I already like it also one worded answers I meen I was just talking to someone “what’s up” nothing… “uhhh ok what kind of music do u listen to?” whatevers on the radio ok how do u respond to stuff like that i meen it sounds like u don’t even wana talk
I absolutely cannot stand when I am talking to a girl and after every damn thing I say her response back is, “lol yah”. This annoys me for two reasons: first and foremost this AOL shorthand garbage. Sends me right up the wall. Second, if I wanted to have a conversation with myself, I wouldn’t have bothered to send you a message. C’mon ladies, at least TRY to have a normal, adult, two way conversation. “lol yah”….. GTFO.
@Mike – I with you on that one! I’ve chatted with people who ended every statement with “LOL!”. I’m just sitting there wondering…are they really laughing out loud? Was it really that funny? Hahah. Go figure? Maybe they’re easily amused?
When people try and chat to you from hundreds even thousands of miles away I mean come on what are the chances of anything happening here – I’m looking for lurv!!! Please don’t just be kinda near me then we wil try huh?
I hate how so many girls (not sure about guys, since I have no interest in them lol) put their status as wanting somebody to talk to, but then when u try to start a convo, they never reply at all. What? I’m not good enough to have a decent conversation? :/
@Jacz – What’s wrong with just having a chat buddy? But, your looking for “lurv” so I understand if thats not what you want. Haha. Maybe state that in your profile?
Being ignored gets on my goat as well, but then I do it to some people too so it’s just karma really. Fact of life is some people you get on with, others you don’t. If all you’re getting is one word answers then maybe you’re asking the wrong questions, maye they are interested but just don’t have the time to write a detailed essay on what their day has entailed and what their favourite music is. And besides, if you find the correspondence boring and uneventful then just move on instead of getting wound up. Afterall it’s not the end of the world having an idle chat with a complete stranger, you tried, didn’t clique, get over it and move on. Don’t see the point in taking it personally, afterall they know nothing about me except the very limited information that I publish so it’s all water off a ducks back to me.
Just one thing tho (not sure this is the correct thread either) I don’t seem to be able to choose a primary picture, just seems to be most recent first, or am I missing something?
I winked at a guy recently (he was cute and I told him so!) – he responded in a slIghtly interested but mostly half-assed, monosyllabic way. He seemed to be very cocky because I showed interest first, not asking anything about me but instead, saying “so what you wanna know?” and “anything else?”. Erm, I might think you’re cute, but I don’t hold cute in that high a regard!
Next!
Also re being ignored and ignoring others. I’ve been on both ends of the stick. There’s no point getting offended and feeling all righteous about being ignored and thinking it’s rude – I used to think it was better etiquette to be told thanks but no thanks. But actually I’ve done the ignoring too because i’ve realised it’s too time consuming to respond nicely. You can’t exactly say ‘thanks but no thanks’ literally. Bit abrupt! But if you are polite, I’ve found many guys use that interaction to continue talking. It’s easier to ignore! So everyone, try not to take any offence to being ignored!
Maybe Skout can invent a polite ‘Thanks but no thanks button??’
Mimi x
@Mimi – Hmmmm..a “Thanks but no thanks button”..that sounds kinda useful. I’ll pass it on! It’ll definitely save a lot of time trying to explain to someone that your just not interested.
Oh, and the whole cocky thing..I AGREE. NOT CUTE!!
People who take a free online flirting simulator too seriously really grind my gears…
1. Ppl who don’t reply to message…. Dude I’m not in love with you and I don’t know you to say I geniunely like you. All I want is a conversation to kill some time.
2. Creepy old guys from around the world… PERIOD
3. Guys that try to talk *sh-t online… Knock it off… Your behind a screen, don’t grow a pair because of it.
Guys with all chest pics or no pics. Girls with barely any clothing. Asking to meet or for my number first off. Asking me everything that’s in my profile because you didn’t read it. Married guys. Guys 10-20 years older than me. Being too pushy. All big NOs.
Woohoo! A Soapbox! I’ve got one for you ladies, stop w/ the flirtatious discrimination. Everyone has their own ‘type’ of person they’re attracted to; not to mention those on the opposite end of that spectrum. That doesn’t mean I want to see your glamour shot, then read how ugly you are on the inside with a status that reads,”if you’re short and smell bad and have a bad haircut, etc etc etc,… don’t talk to me”. It’s not impressive and tends to be quite underwhelming.
I hate it HATE IT when guys send photos before saying hi. Or the convo goes
Hi-hey
- where do you live – blah blah- you seem really nice we should meet up.
NO! I don’t want to meet up with a random guy I just met. Because of that I will not talk to you because you only want sex. (at least In my opinion)
When guys have long hair. Seriously dude, if you wanna be a girl that bad we can go down to the dollar store and buy you some nail polish.
Got another one for ya Sheena, why do we think lying is effective? I can’t count how many times I’ve seen a profile pic that was stock from the Internet, or the face and body clearly contradicted the posted age, or my personal fave, the accelerated/reverse-accelerated aging process. This is when someones profile says an age of 28 one day, then in the course of a work-week it becomes 22. If you watch the details long enuff, eventually it’ll be back in the teens somewhere. What’s the deal? It’s no wonder there are so many complaints about the ‘dumb’ things guys are doin; aim a bit higher. When it goes in the other direction it’s even weirder. Suddenly someone goes from 18 to drinking age? Then we have to hear about how perverted guys are etc, etc. Hey! Stay out of the adult section please!
@Lisa – My point exactly. Some guys just don’t get the clue!!
Wow I thought tht was amazing finally sum1 tht makes since…no wants to see your thing or trade gross pics wit u jus try to get to know sum1 1st b for u start acting all perv…thank u for writing this this is what grinds my gears…u deserve an academy award fir this
@Centail – THANK YOU! I do what I can to be the voice of the people. Hahaha.
Maybe I’m weird, but I hate hate hate hate double hate….loathe entirely…the question “so what do you wanna talk about?” c’mon people, conversation should be able to just flow. Asking what we should talk about creates awkwardness and makes it seem like conversation is forced. Again, I know that’s probably a weird thing to get bothered over. But hey, we all have weird pet peves haha
The thing that annoys me the most is when after like 3 messages back an forth the person suddenly decides that they have to be with you, and that they’ll miss you if you stop talkIng… Also annoying is if they ask you what you’re doing, and you say something along the lines of ” getting ready for bed” then they say ” i wanna be in bed with you”. It’s like dude we’ve been chatting for five minutes. So just slow down a bit!
1. People that type with numbers and symbols. I don’t want to have to decode your message.
2. The fakes that try to get you to join those cam site scams.
3. Yes those damn one worded responses
Very true, but for some odd reason it seems all the girls only respond to douchebags that are completely full of themselves. Nice guys do finish last. I always try to be a gentleman though it seems that is way out of fashion. But I will admit I do appreciate the guys with no game or common decency. I need someone to make me look good. Lol!
I hate it when you talk to a guy and he seems really nice and not like the other guys who always ask for photos until bang! He asks you for a photo or sends you a picture of his dick which just totally puts you off! Guys out there to be honest most girls don’t like it when you 1. Send Unwanted photos 2. Ask for photos constantly and 3. Talk bout sex all the time. Is it possible to have a nice conversation with a guy with out anything sexual going on like seriously!
@Lydia – NICELY PUT!!!! Girl’s everywhere can agree with EVERYTHING you just said. Hahah.
Exsactly Lydia!
I’m bi and on here I’ve been talking to the girls more because they are actually decent and don’t do that crap.
I feel that I’m loosing at this flirting game because i don’t act like a typical guy, most of the guys on here say stuff like “dayyumm girl nice rack
” And what’s sad is the girls on here respond to that instead of me trying to start up casual conversation.
@Devin – If she’s not responding to your gentlemen like gestures then maybe shes not the one you wanna be talking to anyways? Ehhh? Hahah. Keep truckin’!
Even though this is online chatting, each one of us should be respected ( especially girls). U guys, by doing those kind of stuffs, makes u completely 100% immature. My gad! Respect women! And duh?! Life isn’t all about the freaking 3 letter word, SEX. So immature. Taking advantage of this app! (and other dating sites)
One thing that really gets me is when gay dudes try to holler at me when I tell them I’m straight. Plus, they create 2 different accounts just to get at me. It just creppy and wrong.
1. Learn to spell ladies. Smart is sexy. A bit of online shorthand is ok, but buy a couple of vowels, huh? S and Z are not interchangeable.
2. Lose all the glamour shots. Let us know you’re a real person with a real life.
3. LOL. Don’t get me started. Give me credit for knowing what you said is a joke. Honestly using it at all loses you big points in my book.
4. Telling us you love to have fun in your profile. Oh really? You like food too? And music? Could you be more generic? Everyone likes fun. What is fun to you?? Again, smart is sexy.
@Matt – Wow..I like it! Blunt but real. Ladies, take the hint!
Short replies and unwillingles to just say that you are not interested
Hhhhmmmm I walk up to women in real life and say do you wanna see my shlong…. Works everytime lmao NO. So that being said ladies…. Please please please let us know when your bot interested instead of just ending the conversation without any response…. Id prefer a “you know what this just ain’t gone work out” (in better terminology of course) to a ……… Hello?!?! What happened!!! Especially when the conversation is going off so great then u just stay silent and don’t hit us back…. Or maybe that’s just me :’( I don’t know! Sheen beena!! Am I ugly?!?! Lol always have to keep my sense of humor and wit about me btw matt…. Smart IS Sexy I’d prefer a woman who can speak eloquently to the ghetto banter I get sometimes
toodles
@devin you know what the sad thing is…. Hate to say because I know so many women will disagree although they know it’s true… Women preach about wanting a good guy and wanting to find a nice guy but in reality pass them up on a daily bassis for douches and scumbags who will talk down to them…. Reason for it 90% of women are attracted to bad boys and rebels…. Ladies if you don’t agree it’s because ur part of that 10% haha women are a complex creature… What you have to do is play the douche then charm her with the real you once you have your foot in the door… It sucks but the formula is sound
You know what really grinds my gears? All the People here who see a picture that may be slightly provocative and calls it “Sexy” and such just because the woman is wearing a low cut dress or a bikini. It’s a disrespectful thing to do whether you are saying it in person or over the Internet. Unless of course the person in question wishes to recieve those kinds of comments which would make him or her an attention whore. Real women; Classy women; Hate that kind of thing. In the stance of a guy I can only say what reaction I get anything I receive like that warrants a delete and a block.
I really hate when you tell an obviously pretty girl that she looks good and the completely deny it. Why is it so hard to believe how gorgeous you ladies really are?
Derek – We’re just being modest. Hahahha. Either that or she wants you to spoon feed her more compliments? Who knows?!
I had a conversation with a nice guy one time and we ended up exchanging some naughty pics, but days after our conversation, he was STILL sending me peenie pix!! I ignored him and eventually they stopped. I logged in today, 2-3 weeks after our first (subsequently only) convo, and there was his peenie, staring me in the face!! I hate blocking people, but this was warranted.
It’s really annoying when someone “winks” at you first or messages you first and then they always are super short and one word it when you respond.
1-1 word responses
2-Females excessively cussing
3-Non-gentleman acting guys (why’re girls always sexy? Have y’all heard the words “beautiful, cute, pretty, etc.” or am I the only one with those in my vocabulary?)
4-No response to a message, atleast tell me you aren’t interested, that’s better than being ignored
5-One-sided conversations, 1 word answers don’t cut it
6-A bunch of pictures, but none showing your face
I’m sure I’m forgetting some, but those are just a few…
I agree with Sheena.
Most guys that talk to me only say a few words and then ask me where I live or to see a photo of me when on my profile, I Specifically say NO PICS. I’ve found some decent guys though. And they always seem to be middle aged.
I hate when someone sees that I’m clearly sleep…wakes me up jus to ask if I was sleep smh
James – HAHAHAHA. Poor thing…I would be so pissed bc I’m a light sleeper!
u kno what really grinds my gears???
get at me” or something like that and so u message them…not a wink u actually send them a message like hey there, my name is blah blah blah. and they completely ignore it. so ur thinking…they must not be interested ok watev there are plenty of fish (hehe) and then they view ur profile multiple times a day but for w/e reason will not respond to ur msg….
when u go on a persons profile and their status is something along the lines of “bored nd wants to talk
in my opinion: hunni don’t be saying ur bored and wanna talk if u don’t want to atleast keep the conversation alive or meet new ppl.
or if ur gonna be picky put something to the affect of “bored and wanting to talk…hit me up if ur a guy 19 – 21 blonde, taller than 5’7″, and sumwhat shallow etc etc” lol I’m jk but u get the idea
I totally agree 100%…!! everyone has class “But” for most guys not all but most, to bad it’s all low!! I was raised better!! Louisiana
Ladies, although the pics are nice could you please be a bit more creative than standing infront of the mirror and snapping a shot, could a friend take it for you
I’m the opposite. I think one liners are basic responses to closed questions. Your day may have been simply fine. It’s rhetorical anyway. Nobody cares if u found the cutesy shoes or if fluffy died (sorry fluff, ur a wet blanket convo).
A TON of people on here aren’t even looking for more than a nude picture and I’m 75% sure most of the pictures of women aren’t even real. Self-righteous hypocrites grind my gears! If someone sends u a penis picture when ur a lesbian odds are ur mad because ur not even a girl. Over all, I think none of us have a right to judge the social etiquette of others as our lack there of has led us here. Damn u social norms, we fight u and live by u lol
Here’s one… My pics are really me. I am 100% honest inmy conversations… And im here because I have some friends that use this service. So in all honesty, I post on my profile that I am a transgendered woman. Then the nasty messages start. It’s kind of sad whenyour honesty kicks you in the seat of the pants.
I hate when i meassage Guys and they dnt meassage back!
I hate when people dnt have pics of them but they can try and sens people nudes wtf thats stupid!
Interaction between people on the web aside for a minute, I have an issue with the software. Settings=use my current location, settings for search= near. Result= Angelina from Boston 450 miles away, Laura from china 3300 miles away, Brenda 5 miles away.
The same thing happens when using city. 80% of the people I see are more than 250 miles away. Well outside of near and city results range. Would be nice to not have to click 500 links to see 3 people near me.
@Brian, have you noticed if the location displayed on your profile is correct? Are you using an iPhone or Android phone?
@Chelsea – Yes, checked that first thing. I use the iPhone and I have noticed a few times when traveling that it will take a week to correct itself sometimes. In this case the location it says for me is spot on, City, State, Country. Not sure otherwise. Can scout be used from a PC? If so maybe I can link the accounts. It’s possible the cell tower bounces could cause an issue.
@Brian, I’m sorry to direct you away from here, but would you be able to send us a private message on our Facebook page? Facebook.com/Skout
I would like to ask you questions about your account!
@Chelsea sorry, but I keep my Facebook limited to personal acquaintances. If I don’t meet someone face to face, they never see my Facebook. I don’t mind doing email or chatting through here.
@Brian, that’s fine. I was just going to ask you what email address you used to register, but I didn’t want to ask you to publicly post it!
Turn offs: married men, men who ask me to marry them within 5 minutes of meeting them, guys who send me pics of things (shoes, lingere, jewelry) they want to buy me, guys who demand more pics then get mad when I tell them to unlock my backstage ones. Guys who want to know who else I’m talking to, guys who send me naked pics of themselves (for some reason it’s always the small schlong guys who do this) and guys who don’t read my profile and just look at the pics and proceed to ask me things that are in my profile .